I didn't read all of it but I actually agree with OP that if I running Titan Ex and someone can't dodge AOE and say they lagging, I'm not going to say anything but know it that I don't care fact is you can't dodge it lagging or not I can't do anything to help you and if I can help you by carrying you I will but knowing that you make this fight harder than it should (It's sad yes ).
and about going in blind for me I didn't met this people much in my server so I don't know but for me I alway watch video for atleast knowing machanic first before I go in , yes It might spoil me from flesh new experience but as a tank I don't want to going in and lead my party to dead It make me feel bad that everyone have to die just for me want new experience.
oh the only fight that I going in blind is Step of fatecuz It's the first day and It's very fun experience that we have to figure it out how it work, wipe 5 time before we can finished it
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