Quote Originally Posted by Tuathaa View Post
Stopped reading right there. You got a bad group in Duty Finder and we are supposed to be surprised or sympathetic. Other than the main quests Duty Finder is optional and really isn't for progression, gearing or speed runs its meant for a way for casuals to see content and experience dungeons/raids. You are paid a bonus for putting up with newbs/scrubs and as a tank you are paid an even greater bonus. Either deal with it or stick to statics and premades.
You're also making assumptions. I was not complaining about a bad group in DF. Please reread my OP. I'm not trying to garner sympathy because of a bad DF group. I was just trying to share ideas I thought were cool. However, I seem to have touched a nerve. This is the internal defender I talked about in my OP. It seems like people are responding with a great deal of fear as though I am calling them out. I'm not. I'm taking sociology classes and learning to see myself through the eyes of others. I think this is a useful skill to have, don't you think?

I shared some of what I've learned because I thought some might find it helpful to know how the other side sees you (when you wipe the group over and over or always blame forces outside of yourself, whether it's the truth or not e.g. lag). I didn't just criticize, I've offered many ideas for improvement. I highly recommend the book The Question Behind the Question. It helped me understand some issues about personal accountability that I didn't realize before. Spoiler alert: the "question behind the question" is what I shared in my OP - "What can I do right now to improve this situation?" I think it's a very constructive question to ask