is this a common occurrence?

[skillmatic320]

I was doing Brayflox longstop with a friend earlier and i was playing on my level 32 scholar. Everything was going pretty well until we made it to Aiatar. Our tank couldn't dodge the aoe attack to save his life so i couldn't do anything to keep him standing. We wiped twice and all of a sudden my friend says "bro their trying to boot you." I was obviously upset so i asked them what the reasoning was and the tank says "your accessories are under leveled." The two dps told him how stupid that was so he left and we cleared it first try with the new tank.

I hope this isn't what healing is like, because that's the whole reason i stopped maining my tank. I hate how much blame people throw around in this game. Its very discouraging some times.