is this a common occurrence?

[Saseal]

Unfortunately, the best advice to give is "grow a thicker skin" (and I say that without sarcasm or malice, trust me). You're going to run into idiots who think they are God given's gift and cannot be faulted but when you disassemble their attitude, gear, and skill, they're pretty much terrible.

Don't give up and don't let go!

^ This.

A good chunk of the time, people don't want to draw attention to their own mistakes, or are blind to the facts around them - so they blame the people they depend on most... even when it's clearly their fault.


In addition, you'll run into times where you will just have your off days, or some fights that you'll personally find more difficult on healer (my bard + Odin trial = I'm golden. My WHM + Odin trial = suddenly can't dodge for shit?) - and people will just tear into you without remorse, understanding or forgiveness. Both tanks and healers get similar treatment. Funny how both classes are the life blood and bloodied sacrifice for the party and yet often treated the worst. Just know that without you, the party - even the tank - is doomed. If they have an attitude problem, that's their fault and their problem - not yours.
It does hurt to be attacked when you're doing everything you can, but a stone skin is needed (easier said than done, I know). Think of it as part of the challenge
You're pretty lucky the DPS called him out, rather than just saying nothing and going with what ever flow is tossed out (like a vote kick).
Best I've ever got was, "o.O But he's not that bad" *Suddenly kicked*

I don't think some accessories being under-leveled is the largest problem (but then again, it's Bray.... *shudder*) you could have (not like it was left side and weapon under leveled) - so that sounds like an awkward excuse on his part. Bray NM is also twice as difficult on SCH without the ability to use Leeches. Thrice as hard with a particularly inexperienced or lazy tank.

[Spoekes]

Bray NM is also twice as difficult on SCH without the ability to use Leeches. Thrice as hard with a particularly inexperienced or lazy tank.

I have sympathy for the OP too, but cmon, twice or thrice... no need to resort to such exaggerations.

[Saseal]

I have sympathy for the OP too, but cmon, twice or thrice... no need to resort to such exaggerations.

Brayflox is a pain in the ass. - once
No leeches - Twice
Idiot tank - Thrice

[mp-please]

Brayflox is a pain in the ass. - once
No leeches - Twice
Idiot tank - Thrice

The fight is actually easier if you just ignore the poison and heal through, it doesn't do that much dmg compared to the mp cost of constant esuna. Even easier as sch since you can just /pac embrace and make eos/selene spam healing at 0 mp cost.

Not every poison dot requires cleaning if it makes the healer run out of mp.

[Spoekes]

The fight is actually easier if you just ignore the poison and heal through, it doesn't do that much dmg compared to the mp cost of constant esuna. Even easier as sch since you can just /pac embrace and make eos/selene spam healing at 0 mp cost.

Not every poison dot requires cleaning if it makes the healer run out of mp.

This is assuming you're doing it wrong and clean the stacking posion buff at one stack.

[mp-please]

This is assuming you're doing it wrong and clean the stacking posion buff at one stack.

No, that is assuming tank doesn't dodge once lol. Debuff stacking wise, fight usually ends before the debuff bypasses overhealing capability.