Complimenting someone is not flirting!

[Azper]

Compliments are just that: a compliment. Personally, I really enjoy when someone says something nice to me. I put time and effort into my character's physical appearance and glamours, so it's nice when someone recognizes you for it. I shudder to think how some people would react if someone in life away from the game said, "Hey, you look nice today!"

Here's a helpful tip: you say, "Thank you!" or "That's really nice of you, thanks!" and move on. Why must everyone always read into everything?

[JayCommon]

On this edition of Hildibrand Springer...

"OH NO YOU DIH'NT JUST GLANCE AT THAT LALAFELL?!"

and don't forget the extra dose of....

"if you comment about that Elezen's ears again your subligar will be a thong!"


Stay tuned, as Eorzea turns....

[SayuriHime]

Some people have said that others might react rudely to a compliment because they feel awkward or want the situation to go away. Meaning the compliment made you very uncomfortable. I am having a hard time empathizing with that emotion. If anyone takes the time to compliment me, I never take it as a come on. Actually, makes me really happy! I'm all like "Why thank you!"! And I've also never had any stalker related issues arise from other people complimenting me. I know some people are afraid of that but really, is that fear justified? As a female irl, I have never really had an issue with people trying to "stalk" me like I hear other girls going on about. I also have several girls in my FC that have never had any issues with this. So in my small microcosm of people I associate with, a compliment is just a compliment and not meant to offend in any other way.

But I can see where some of you are coming from if the person I complimented was in an unstable relationship. But really, come on now! The girlfriend is watching and sees someone say that their boyfriends AVATAR is cute and gets pissed? If that is the case, might need to reevaluate that relationship! Also, it's a random duty finder! People that will most likely never meet again. I know one person mentioned cross-server stalking or something but if that happened, I would welcome them to my blacklist and report if need (though has previously mentioned that has never happened).

And for all I know, he could have just been joking or sarcastic and it just didn't come through over the interwebs very well.

To OP: Was this WoD by chance?

The incident in question was a Steps of Faith run.

Compliments are just that: a compliment. Personally, I really enjoy when someone says something nice to me. I put time and effort into my character's physical appearance and glamours, so it's nice when someone recognizes you for it. I shudder to think how some people would react if someone in life away from the game said, "Hey, you look nice today!"

Here's a helpful tip: you say, "Thank you!" or "That's really nice of you, thanks!" and move on. Why must everyone always read into everything?

This! This! This!

[Eidolon]

Personally I play flirt with anything with a pulse, including eos / Selene

[Kosmos992k]

Personally I play flirt with anything with a pulse, including eos / Selene

Well...I mean...at least they still have curves!. Damned changes to Miqo'te physique...

[Tsuga]

I love when people compliment my character, or seem to really like her. I get people patting me and hugging me all the time in df, haha.

I have had it cross the line and start to feel a bit like flirting or even harassment, especially since implementation of the hug emote, but it's pretty rare in this game. Maybe some people have just had bad experiences in the past?

I'm usually too shy to compliment people, but I try to at least /cheer them or /smile at them if I really like their character's look. I think that's a pretty neutral way to make somebody feel good without them potentially taking it the wrong way.

[Eye_Gore]

Some people have said that others might react rudely to a compliment because they feel awkward or want the situation to go away. Meaning the compliment made you very uncomfortable. I am having a hard time empathizing with that emotion.

The world is full of all types of people and personalities. Not everyone thinks the same. As we see here a mixed bag of responses from various folks. From the over analyzed gamer types, to the simple "it was probably a joke".

Some people don't like compliments it makes them feel uneasy and awkward, just because you don't understand something, doesn't mean it doesn't happen. We come from all walks of life, background and upbringing. What one person takes a compliment some could take it as insult. Without actual voice chat in most situations on the game it is very difficult to discern someones tone, manor, or meaning. We are not all the same person.

I'm not saying that was the situation, just pointing out the diversity of people and personalities that play this game, and how interpretation is dealt with.

[Kosmos992k]

.Without actual voice chat in most situations on the game it is very difficult to discern someones tone, manor, or meaning. We are not all the same person.

Voice changing options can reduce the usefulness of voice chat in this regard. Besides, for me, my brain hates the thought of *my* voice issuing forth from my character, it simply doesn't work for me, so I prefer to stick to text.

[Chasely]

I've found the sex of one's avatar doesn't really matter. Straight guys fall for my male characters all the time just because I'm helpful and ask how their day is going. It's kind of awkward when my guy friends' girlfriends get jealous that a male character helps them with a dungeon or two. ^^; As for emotes, straight guys blow kisses at each other all the time. It's just how they interact. I wouldn't even consider that flirting, honestly.

the next time you compliment a guy and he says he's married ask him if there's any space left in his harem. Jokes are great ways to diffuse potentially awkward situations. it doesn't really matter how he reacts afterwards, because you'll always have the upper hand.

You can also say something along the lines of, "Blink once if she sitting next to you and twice if there's a knife to your throat."

[Bluevann]

A random stranger /slapped me without me ever saying or doing anything to them, nevermind say or do something that'd make me deserve a slap. I definitely did not feel I was being flirted there and then.

While I do like when someone compliments my character, I'd really appreciate if emotes like /slap and /hug prompted a confirmation window to the receiver of the emote (like you do when someone wants to Trade with you). Not everyone likes to be /slapped, /petted or /hugged by random strangers, even if it's just a line of text in a videogame.