I already accepted the fact that the player character isn't really us, the player. It's a character that we model to look like us, nothing more. The character we play as isn't US personally. It's sort of like Link from the Zelda games; we can name him whatever we wish and choose how he responds to NPCs, but in the end, he is his own character. The story for FF14 is already decided and we are just there for the ride. No amount of "character responses" is going to change anything unless Square suddenly decides to write different scenarios for every action we choose to take.


It's less frustrating that way and if you really want a better story to player interaction, it's not going to be here.