FFXIV and Family Time

[Meow_Zedong]

If you are a true gamer, where it is a part of your life, I just don't see how you could be in a relationship with someone that hates games and not have troubles. It's like a devout religious person marrying an atheist; it's not impossible, but it brings on a lot of problems.

Having said that, when my girl comes over while I'm playing FFXIV I usually stop because she looks bored. Then we switch to a 2-player game.

[nasomi]

Well, I'm divorced, my kids kids are old enough to take care of themselves most of the time, I generally play from 8-12 most nights unless I have some work to catch up on. Gives me time to make dinner, do homework with the kids, laundry, and stuff like that, and still plenty of play time.

When I was married, I played FFXI a lot. She got into it eventually, and then let it take over, to the point where things were suffering, such as raising kids, cleaning, etc. and I was doing it all, plus working full time while she sat at home and played ffxi. That didn't last very long, and now I answer to no one, raise kids, and have fun.

[Xatsh]

You have 2 options with family and Kids

1) Know when to get off... bad things happen if you don't. GF/Wife agro is something that should be avoided at all time.

2)(Better Option) Get the kids and Wife to play ... It is called a family night a time for the whole family to bond and come together and play.... just have to find a way to sell that >.>

[Fayette]

You have 2 options with family and Kids

1) Know when to get off... bad things happen if you don't. GF/Wife agro is something that should be avoided at all time.

2)(Better Option) Get the kids and Wife to play ... It is called a family night a time for the whole family to bond and come together and play.... just have to find a way to sell that >.>

I had two friends in FFXI that played with their family. Hubby, Wife, 2 kids for one family and Hubby, Wife and 1 kid for other family. They had a great time together and it was fun hanging out with them all ^^

My previous girlfriend didn't have a problem with it (broke up with her for non-gaming related reasons). I wouldn't bother with someone who did. I would rather be alone than with someone who tries to control every aspect of how I spend my time.

I keep telling people in game (mostly tends to be guys) who complain about their girlfriends one piece of advice that I will live by for myself as well (I'm a girl). If you are an avid gamer and that is what you like to do as a hobby, then please only date other gamers. It will save you and the other person a lot of trouble and heartache and your online friends don't have to hear you complaining about RL aggro all the time :P

Some people get lucky though that they date a non-gamer and end up converting the person. My ex-b/f wouldn't even attempt to do anything with me online, considered it a waste of his precious baseball news reading time Funny thing is, I started playing online games because when I was over at his place for a few days I would be bored while he was at work or when he was at home and was busy watching baseball and I needed something to do!

[Perrin_Aybarra]

2)(Better Option) Get the kids and Wife to play ... It is called a family night a time for the whole family to bond and come together and play.... just have to find a way to sell that >.>

Yeah that's a good idea. On top of it you don't have trouble finding a group to go do stuff when you play with your family :P

[Eekiki]

My previous girlfriend didn't have a problem with it (broke up with her for non-gaming related reasons). I wouldn't bother with someone who did. I would rather be alone than with someone who tries to control every aspect of how I spend my time.

[Archadius]

I'm a pretty easy-going guy and people take advantage of my good nature a lot.

All I'm going to say is that I have stories that will crush you and make you wonder how I even have the strength to get out of bed in the morning.

[Luluna]

Me and my husband play all the time be it MMO or Console games!! Sometimes i am worse than he is and need to do other things...been together 16 years and have played many a fine game. I don't understand other females who would rather go dance around their handbag than having some fun gaming, and they don't get my gaming but its what makes the world go round. Best advice is find a girl/guy who loves the same things as you do makes it less aggro time lol. Or don't ignore them and share your time with them as much as you would gaming.

[Bigglesworth]

I actually have the ammend my response a bit. It's not that my wife hates games. We have a Wii and there are family games that we do together where we all along with the kids have a lot of fun (Just Dance 2 - Don't hold it against me). The only problem with FF is that it isn't really a 2 player co-op like other games. I understand you play with others, but they are online friends, not 2 players logged into the same computer.

[Seif]

I don't think I'll ever be able to turn my bf into a gamer. XIV was the best shot I thought I had at it but SE blew that chance.

He understands that I like to play because videogames are my job and a hobby but the hardest time I have is when we have something we planned to do and XI/XIV online commitments happen at the same time.

I really hate blowing off anybody for personal stuff and I don't want to make my bf wait until I get gaming stuff done so I tend to like the easy but slow grin methods. Meaning solo grinding in XIV and Qufim partying in XI.

I think he enjoys videogames the most when I'm exploring new places in XI because the beast tribes and the history of the areas is so well written but in XIV there's not that much to know about the world and the history of the world isn't reflected in the surroundings in the same compelling way.

I'm really hoping he'll give XIV another chance when the world changes and better written story content arrives.