Bodhum may be one of the smaller severs, but we have a great community. Have you joined a linkshell? Most of your issues would go away if you had a core social base. I would recommend putting in an app at either Moogle Mayhem http://nova-linkshell.ffxivwebsites.com/home or Error 13001 http://error13001.co.cc/ Good people to be found at both. You will find may people who are willing to help (myself included). It's boring to be alone, join a group! According to ffxiv pro there are 21 shells currently who are recruiting. See? http://www.ffxivpro.com/search/links...5&recruiting=1 (I hope I'm allowed to link that)
Hope this helps! Remember, it's hard to get help if you don't make yourself heard! (I was there once, I remember. This is my first MMO)