lazy tanking is used by most healers that complain of tanks not popping enough cooldowns or any defensive skills in time. With that said, I can recommend that you ignore it.

I took a break from the game and just got back a little while ago, I've never seen so much bad healers/tanks and dps than nowadays. If you die due to an healer dps'ing then remove the healer. If you die because you stand there 45 minutes and healer runs out of mp, you run out of tp and the dps still hasn't killed 1 mob, replace the dps. Makes life so much easier and you can move on.