Thank you everyone.
There's a lot of useful tips posted here. I've been blacklisting them as they send /t, but at some point I imagine my b-list will get full.
Im trying to remain focused on why we bought the game in the first place and not let it get to me. I will be trying out some of the suggestions made to see which fit the best and go from there.
It's really a great game thus far and hopefully the suggestions made here will suffice.