^What he said. I main SCH for my FC and static and I will second that you should NEVER EVER EVER create dps macros. They don't work. Also, don't macro too many skills together at once.

I would just stick to Rouse + Whisper, with several lines of whisper, to make sure it goes off (with or without wait cmds is fine).

The strength of your heals sounds fine for a fresh/near 50, I would say that you are just meeting unpleasant people. Try not to let them get to you, everyone was new once.

Now, I know some people will disagree with my next statement, but I will stand by it to the death: Do not macro Embrace to any of your skills. Your fairy's GCD is longer then yours, so you will get out of sync very fast.
Locking Embrace to your GCD removes so much of your flexibility: you can set up a manual Embrace macro to get the fairy to heal one target, while you heal another, or you can let the fairy top up the dps while you focus on healing the tank/DPSing.