I learned the hard way as tank that just because your party is in dreadwrym, doesn't mean they can handle giant pulls despite demanding it ._.

Coil gear =/= being able to effectively speed run.

After that incident a couple of times, I from then on just ask whether or not the party wants a medium or small pulls.

Giant pulls are for friends/fc only :x.

So just ask them what the pace will be and from that place a level of performance expected from yourself and the party.