OP already said all is good. Jokes in bad taste = perceived personality clash = group abandon => making up after CONVERSATION
(But really, y'all should learn that when with several groups of people some things just aren't what you should be saying.)

The tethers are distinguishable. Develop raid awareness. Look at whether or not you have certain shapes of tethers (though color helps people). You have helix-like? This is the "red/green" tether! Not that? Ok blue it is.

The balls in chrysalis are distinguishable. They're small. Or big -_-