Thanks for the responses, I recently picked up Cure II and am working on getting my MRD to 30 (or is it 36?) for Intimidation and Warmonger. Last night using Wardrum + Provoke + Disorient, I was able to hold off two mobs from my party just fine(hey I am trying something new and more might have been a problem since I was needing heals a lot as well). I had to tell the PLG to hold back a little because there was 2 mobs on us but in the end I only lost aggro for a second and a Provoke pulled it back to me.

As for the missing issue, try wearing some Accuracy + rings, I picked up 4 Silver rings for a total of 8 accuracy and am sitting at 50 DEX atm and I rarely miss anymore (for the time being).

Thanks for all the replies, its been very helpful!