Meeting new players does depend on several things, your server or the time during which you play. Assuming those two things aren't issues it can take some trial and error on your part.

More than that it is about finding a group which jives with you. Some FC's and LS's are quite chatty while others, not so much. It takes some time to find a group of people you really mesh well with.
However, you should know that a good many people use voice chat in this game. So while they may appear very silent in game they are in fact quite chatty.

I'm sorry that you (OP) and nuyu11 are having difficult times in regards to finding people, but giving up and just not playing the game is not going help you find those people.
My advice to you guys is to read the game quest text. Even if you don't talk to people right away, the game does tell you to do class quests. Overall the game does a great job in directing new players with what they're supposed to do. It allows for a nice buffer from when you first start out to when you do meet people and are able to make friends. In regards to meeting people, just remain open and sociable and you will make friends.

Lastly, I understand that it can be frustrating for a new player. However, simply raging at people because they aren't doing what you want is ill advised. Raging will always create more problems for you than it will solve.