Alexia, Your post suggests that everyone should play their character in the way "you" expect them to, rather than allowing someone to enjoy playing their character the way "they" want to.

Also , there is nothing stopping you from being a Conj that uses mostly monk skills if you desire to play in that manner. You would just be using a staff. Are you labeled a CONJ sure....but is that what you are? I say you are what you choose to be.