My favorite are the ones that shoot a second after i shield lob onto a mob.....and what is even greater about it, they don't even hit the one I shield lob onto but some random other mob in the pack. Love those!!! >.<

Quelling strike wouldn't help much there as this is more a stupidity problem than anything else.

I don't really have hate problems as I just flash the hell out of everything but I know that it can be tight when a BLM is present...especially on lower level content when you don't have all hate skills available. But I suppose it really comes down to how smart the DPS are you are running with. If they cannot wait for the mob names to turn red then I would advise you to just let them tank it. I have provoke which I use once.....if it happens several times it is their mob and no longer my problem.