Being a tank myself, i didn't know it was an issue. I always start low, with small pulls and go bigger. First thing i watch is my members HP, that gives an hint of their current i-level. Also, it depends of the set up. What is the point of going SR when you got a nin + BRD as DPS. I don't see BRD being that good on AoEs. As for Nin AoEs... well, we all know they suckaga IV at it. I'd suggest making a macro that would say "ok Tank, please, don't overpull, my current i-level is too low to support big heals in here". So even if your gear-level is fine, you just step on your pride. IT's DF anyway, right ? so.. i mean, who cares ?