I got vote kicked for the first time today (or, how do I keep nin from taking aggro?)

[Kaes]

Trying to understand what I was doing incorrectly, is the exact reason I made this thread. Because contrary to Hyunckel and Riviere's assumptions, I do care about being an effective player and not holding my group back. Yes, I have been reading guides, and asking friends on Twitter, and asked here on the forums because isn't this the official place where you can ask people for advice? If I planned on being carried in every single dungeon to troll people, why would I ask at all?

It is not fun to be stuck in an instance for 90 minutes when you can clear previous ones in half the time. Not fun for anyone even if you don't have a queue time.

Like you, Riviere, I didn't begin the Qarn quest until I felt I was ready to try the next level. Each day, even if I didn't have much time to play other content, I queued low-level roulette once per day for weeks. I did Sastasha, Tamtara and Haukke Manor so many times, and thanks to other players teaching in the dungeon, and some online guides, I learned how to keep aggro and have the party beat them on the first run.

Doing the low level DRs also skyrocketed my PLD level by a free level every 2-3 days.

Not very long ago I didn't know about stacking mobs or buffs multiplying enmity or why marking was important. Today I know and practice: flash twice, group mobs together for aoe, pull with shield lob, but don't use shield lob in melee, don't let GCD idle, preload combos, pop Fight or Flight cooldown for extra enmity. On my most recent run, a new person came into Tamtara, so I made sure to tell them what marking is and explained how some adds like Inconspicuous Imp can be more important to grab, then I made sure to mark the Imp when it spawned.

Can you believe the first time I marked a mob for a party was two days ago? I hope I can continue learning.

As mentioned in the first post, I suspected that gear deficiency could be affecting my aggro, but I wasn't sure the best approach to obtaining it therefore I decided to ask the forums. Most players were telling me that VIT should be the primary focus for tanks, therefore, my original focus was on leveling fast to get stat points to allocate VIT and increase my HP to maximum. Once I failed Qarn and realized there was a problem, my first instinct was to check the Market Board. Tbh I was really hoping that if I farmed low-level at 50 and saved up a lot of gil or tomes, I could trade with players or redeem tomes for the best stuff. Turns out that the best items actually can't be purchased, they come from untradable drops.

I have the Lv45 Paladin job quest started, probably will have it completed tomorrow. I'll be taking a break from duty roulettes on PLD, I'll put the daily exp boost on CNJ instead so I can get stoneskin etc.

How did I equip a new shield and gain a level? I bought it from the markets then did my daily DR habit then logged off last night. I didn't unlock Dzemael Darkhold, so I did not enter into DD.

For everyone who has been offering advice and understanding so far, thank you again.