Marriage Partner Hookup Megathread!

[JumperX]

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Unfortunately, that's human nature for you. You inform them what you want, what you are looking for, what you are willing to accept, yet people ask for more. Just establish in the first meeting what you are searching for. If they accept and then later "change their mind", then you have the right to say GTFO.

In regard to transferring. are you willing to transfer to just play with one person that can be a friend while you have more friends in the current server?. I think that's the main reason why most people say NO to the question: willing to transfer? (obviously there can be more reasons such as:money, FC, static, etc. If you read some apps, most people say, I have a friend (rl) in here. They need me or I have friends, they will kill me if I transfer)

[Magic-Mal]

I've only asked for friendship but have gotten too many people wanting way more than I'm willing to give.

That's the issue right there. It's a marriage hookup thread for a game not an actual dating site. So yes it's understandable that many people aren't actually looking for a serious relationship with it.. Just because you get married to a person in-game doesn't mean you need to have a romantic relationship IMO.. Many people out there get married and their partner sees it way deeper which causes problems.

I personally avoided all marriage for this reason until I finally met someone and it just.. happened. And even then it took 8months for me to be ready to have the actual wedding xD. I'm thankful he was so patient lol

JumperX, from what I can gather.. about your standing on transfer, are you saying it would not be worth transferring to a server for someone if there is not the chance of a romantic relationship?

[JumperX]

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I am not saying it is not worth it. It can or cannot. It depends on people's perspective, but most people won't transfer as simple as that. you tell me. is it worth it for you?

Let's be realistic. It's kind of unrealistic to think that a person with a main in another server will hang out on another for 3-4 months while leaving behind their main, group, and friends. You said it that you met someone and just.."happened" You probably spend time with that person more than just a few 30 mins per day/week to have a relationship.

[JumperX]

If any of my friends still played this game I sure as heck wouldn't be posting here.

Believe or not, people with friends in their server still post saying, "my FC needs me!, my friends will miss me or if my friend(s) transfer...." If you think transfer will do the trick, Alysanne transfer. Just select the people that have/look what you need/want. Communicate with them and see how things go.

[Magic-Mal]

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I wouldn't transfer if I had connections with people in my current server. I don't think I could do such a thing. Even if I really liked the other person..

I know of people with enough time on their hands to have that sort of thing though. They could certainly have a relationship that way.

It's kinda hard to answer the question because I want to spend money to transfer as it is lol. My answer would be:

Yes, but only if I have no ties(Friends, partner, etc) keeping me there and I could go make new friends on the new server. As of now, I'm far from a "yes".

[Windi]

You on an alt, Windi? Either way, I can tank the occasional dungeon for you if you like while you're leveling Bard. Leaving my char logged in for the while, if you want to shoot a friend request. Might not be able to respond immediately though.

Thanks! I got some irl work I need to take care of tonight, so I won't come on. I'm pretty sure I'll be available tomorrow night, though.

[Shurrikhan]

Thanks! I got some irl work I need to take care of tonight, so I won't come on. I'm pretty sure I'll be available tomorrow night, though.

Will be out for interviews tomorrow from like 5 to 8 PST, but otherwise free. Should be on at some point for dailies and the 24-mans before I get dragged off to Overwatch...

[JumperX]

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I know what you are talking about. People do say they have relationships (friends, statics, FC/LS,etc), yet they want more? again human nature. I have been in different servers and worlds, and I got to know that not all of them are to my liking. You get to know the community in their "best behavior" when you are " a new player " because people tread you very differently than other with "experience"

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Then my friend that's the answer. You would transfer if you got not friends. You said it, it is hard to do so if you got friends. We have to remember that it takes a lot of effort from both side to be persistent and continue talking. I met some people who would not talk much after the first meeting. That's a big factor people need to consider. I, as the one planning to move, am willing to spend time and make the other person notice me and spend time even thought I am playing an alt that is level 1?. or I, as the person who is not moving, am willing to spend time with this other person that can't play with me at all in this moment because we are trying to see whether or not we click?

[SagaSoluna]

I find that, ironically, those players who are at least open to the idea of romance, tend to be a lot easier to grow close to and befriend than those looking for -friends only-

In my experience, those who are seeking exclusively for friendship tend to be less open, less compromising and much slower and careful in their offering of their trust and time.
This is in part caused by the fact that a lot of -friends only- players are already otherwise romantically engaged, which means that they need to be a lot more observant and careful of limits and boundaries.

I guess i just find that befriending those "looking for" and willing tends to be a lot more smooth, thrilling and relaxed than those who begin a relationship by limiting it.
And even when you are not desperate for romance, it is always sweet and exciting, to have that "What if" on the back burner of your unconcious mind :3

[Bixillarla]

I am glad everyone doesn't think like you Saga. I was only looking for a in game relationship between characters and not any real life relationship. I am open, caring, and a relaxed person. As long as my boundries are respected I am very easy to get a long with. I have a wonderful partner now that respects my boundries and we are having fun playing together.

There may be personals reasons someone may not want to take it out of game and use the game a escape to do what they can't outside.

Do not discount those who are not interested in a real life relationship, there are some good ones out there, give them a chance unless of course you want a real life relationship.