Well if you got a bad experience that would explain the red flag/ questioning about a person's gender.
I didn't mean to say that you are looking for a girl to be your gf (this goes to anybody that might have taken my words in that direction). I think we are going to relate the EB with wedding ceremony so it's obvious guys wouldn't want to EB another male toon at least that other "guy" has a girl behind the screen. I think girls are more open minded when it comes to EB any gender because it is connected to the way women are raised as children. Girls are more often seem playing with male and female toys/dolls. Guys don't really play with dolls (mostly referring to what is the norm in society. There are always exception on how parents raise their children/child)
The only way I've seen guys not having problem marrying another dude is when both players are playing as females because they just focus on what they have in front of them and joke with that avatar (that is my experience) or when the guy is 100% sure the other person is a girl (again my experience in games). If you can't find anyone to EB with, I suggest you to just be the leveling partner with your friend in game (don't EB him just play with him because you don't need to EB the other person at least you want the items. If you EB the person that you met and started talking, well it would be a token of trust. Like a friendship ring/bracelet - just my opinion)
I got a great time with Iyimieru by doing the main story quest and the side quests. I like to have a leveling partner in any online game I decide to play because I can count on that friend to stick around and help me so I won't be left behind. It's always a mutual help; you scratch my back, I scratch yours
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