Just a tip for anyone still searching after a while of nothing or just getting into this thread.
Here is a server that was created recently to try and make that easier without the creep/lurk vibe
that most of the others are known for. Stop by and make yourselves at home to make friends or meet a possible partner
https://discord.gg/Ez7TNvk
(It's fairly new and moderated so any advice or questions are very much welcome)