I found the perfect solution for this issue; Platinum and Gold players get the perks upfront because they paid. Regulars players get the rewards overtime like Veteran rewards, ensuring they stay married.
Side Note; People fail to realize this is a player funded game and I am pretty sure our subs don't cover everything Yoshi-P needs to implement everything they want in game along with costs of keeping the game running. People are also confusing Paying to Win with Paying for Convenience which is the devs fault for not clearly thinking through the cash shop. They need to have a contingency plan for budget players.
This Wedding business is pay for convenience because you still get the wedding you just don't get minions or mounts. No matter how much Gil you accumulate or craft armor you purchase selling the bands you STILL can't power your way through endgame content FCoB with out skill. So until then, I'm waiting for someone to actually explain to me how this is pay to win.