I'm sorry but as a veteran MMORPG player and new to FFXIV, I have to disagree.
DPS meters are a great way to receive feedback and constructive criticism is always welcomed. For the most part I've had nothing but welcoming experiences from the FFXIV veterans. They always seem to be willing to help. If someone is too sensitive and can't handle the feedback that DPS meters bring, then they shouldn't be raiding in the first place. DPS meters in every MMORPG that I've played have always been my bread and butter in terms of making myself a better DPS teammate. SQUAREENIX im calling you out like Sway in the Morning, you wack *** rappers, bring the DPS meters STAT. haha!