I cannot speak for JP Servers. Many ppl glorifiy them, maybe you should switch if to a JP Server.

Whenever I open Partyfinder it looks a bit like this:
Turn X - KILL EXP 1 FAIL -> KICK
Primal Y - KNOW YOUR STUFF, NO NOOBS
SELLING COIL, ALL PRIMALS, MOUNT...
the list goes on..

Learning parties do pop from time to time, but they die after the 60 mins timer.

Maybe your thinking is not backwards in Japan Servers but here it definately is.