Im a casual so I understand the deal. The truth is that casuals cant do everything. Thats the tradeoff with having a busy life. You cant reasonably expect to do relevant hardcore content while maintaining a non committal game schedule.

Raids are for raiders. Dungeons and primals are for ppl like us. Crafts and melds are for ppl like us. Quests and story too. We can still keep up on the gear curve without hitting the raids.