Hate to break it to you, but scheduled playing in static groups comes with the MMO endgame territory.

There really is no way you will down bleeding edge content w/o multiple raiding nights a week with the same people so progress and experience can be gathered. (- getting carried ofc)

I'm in the same boat since I raid in another MMO, I'll likely never see much of coil until they implement a spectator/story mode, since I cannot and will not commit to 2 MMOs raiding schedules.

Also DF Pugs are HORRIBLE in this game. People fail at the most BASIC level... just try Ultima hard if you don't believe me.
Despite it's similarity to the story Ultima fight people just can't seem to grasp how to move. <_<