Apparently trying to help is being rude

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I will take advise from people I know better than from complete strangers. It is the strangers with the back seat driving on said classes that are pushing the line. Driving and playing back mage are completely different things. One deals with safety and following the law and the other is with a game and whether or not a person is doing enough damage. They are not the same thing - you are bringing an element into the conversation that throws sands into the eyes of the discussion and has nothing to do with one or the other. Come up with a better analogy of real life to playing a black mage and then perhaps I will see your point.

First, it wasn't my analogy to begin with. Second, what I said still stands. You can't expect people that play games and live in the real world not to react similarly to negative feedback (whether it's because they drive slowly or whether it's telling them to reread their skills and play a different job). And why assume that it's coming from a friend? What if it was in a taxi or on a city bus? Would it be rude then to tell someone to get out of the fast lane? It would be a stranger in a situation like you described. Is the analogy working yet?

Taking advice from people you know instead of strangers? Gee, that sounds familiar. The fact is, it was a stranger saying this crap. If it was your friend, you would imagine they'd react differently. In which case, you're right. You take advice better from your friends. In real life and in a game. Not that hard to imagine.

Also, the safety issue is a moot point. Driving in the fast lane at such a slow speed could be an issue with the law and not good for safety anyway, so telling someone to go faster or get out of that lane would be helping them. I think the similarity between the two cases is that someone (a stranger) is trying to tell another person what they should or should not do, since they're seemingly unable to help themselves or see they're doing something wrong.

Look, people are going to either accept criticism or not, and how you wrap that criticism up is key. You can't just bring in the tired old "games =/= real life" bs and think it will just end any discussion. And then you backtrack and say "well you need a BETTER analogy" after you poorly critique a different analogy.