Server Merge

[Yamimarik]

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Probably should have read more than just the OP's wild accusations. There is no server mergers happening any time soon. Just look all over here, Lodestone, or any other SE/FFXIV:ARR official site. No need to worry about anything at all. Your name and your wife's name are safe.

EDIT:
As far as any merge, or server transfer of any character that has the same exact name. The server that you would be going to, that person already on there, would have priority, just how these things work unfortunately. Though I'm not sure FFXIV:ARR is really set up just yet for server merges just because of how housing works at the moment.