Sorry a true n00b here needs help please !

[Anova]

Welcome to the game saiphonus.

The best server depends on your specific interest. If you're interested in hardcore endgame, Excalibur, Hyperion, and Sargantas may be the best choices for you. There are some very good guilds on those servers. If you're interested in RP, Balmung and Gilgamesh are the unofficial RP servers. Be aware that you will have to log in and create characters at odd times (very early or very late) to get the more populated servers.

Of the melee DPS classes, Monk is considered slightly better than Dragoon (although Dragoon is better at burst). Of the ranged dps classes, I would say that Bards and Blackmages are usually in high demand, especially with the synergy between the two. There is a huge discrepency between mediocre and good summoners, so most players will apply a stigma to summoners until you prove yourself.

If you haven't already, I would seriously suggest getting a keyboard for the PS3 so you can talk with interested recruiters. Most free companies (guilds) have a house you can send an application to. Just browse through the residential districts and submit an application at their door. You may be able to check how active the fc is and talk to members while you're there too. Alternatively, checking the server forums is always a good idea. Don't be afraid to use linkshells to network in to FCs either.