Help getting used to controller controls

[Niwashi]

3. Even though I switched Click target to "Enemies" instead of "Others," Unsheathing my weapon still reverts to "Others." I don't want to select NPCs and Objects. This is incredibly non-useful during protection fates and defense fates that don't have healable NPCs

Under Targeting / Filters, there are two different ways to configure what to target. A section at the top lets you configure it based on whether your weapon is drawn or sheathed, and a section below it lets you configure it based on L1 + a face button. You should only have one of those two methods enabled, or they interfere with each other. It sounds as though you have both enabled and the drawn/sheathed settings are overriding the L1+face button settings.