jaydee, i can understand your point, i'm also a long time FF player myself. I also played FFXIV at PS3 release.
For me, I 'gave it time'. I gave it roughly just after the release of the server, and was more than patient to wait and see how things went. They got worse, I moved. Choice. It wasn't an easy decision, nor was it hasty.

One thing I WILL say, in comparison to the server i'm on now, people are very nice on Jenova. Seriously guys, the civility in hunts? Keep it going for as long as possible, because when it descends to an asshat zergfest where noone takes any other players into consideration, that's where you'll be thinking "damn i wish it was quiet again".