Heh, I never ran into this problem with my Bard though ive had people ask for one before(very rarely). Honestly I never thought of Bard songs to be very useful to begin with. They help, I guess, but its hardly enough to keep up with healer spamming or even my own rotation.

Granted, I use them in emergencies, but at my own discretion. Meaning I decide what song goes up from my own analysis of the situation. That is of course, unless im in a raid, but thats why they have a thing called "raid leader." Regardless if someone wants to bitch let them bitch, its their higher blood pressure. If they ALL ask me not to play any and just DPS, sure, their loss after all. Unless my own TP is low in which case its going up whether they like it or not.

Oh and the DPS chart police can suck it... if bosses are dying then their opinions on my, or another players performance are about as important as the turds my dogs leaves on my neighbors yard.