This isn't a new problem. "Back in the day" before X Primals, Titan HM had the whole quitting in 2 mintues thing going all the time, too. Seems a lot of people just want to win on one try. The only way to do it is to just keep at it, keep at it, keep at it. Eventually you'll get enough experience to have your part nailed down, then it's just a matter of time before getting enough others to help you. It may be a long process, but eventually you WILL win.

And once you do get to that point, it's also a good idea to jump into whatever parties are recruiting for these duties when you're not doing anything (like standing around Revenant's Toll emoting), to help the next crop of players learn and win. This increases the talent pool for higher-level content. The more players you help get to your level, the more potential teammates you get for making parties for Coil and whatnot.