Generally, as a tank, I make a mid-size pull without even asking only AFTER I check the other party member's equips at the start area of the instance. If I see they're i100-i100+, I make that mid-size pull. Based on how well they handle that clues me in to what they can handle. After that, I just make large pulls and, if I'm Paladin - Flash > CoS > Flash > RoH combo > Shield Bash things that might need be. I generally never lose hate doing that. If I'm Warrior, Tomahawk > OP > Infruriate > Cyclone > BB combo > Cyclone. Same as Paladin, generally never lose hate. The only time I maybe ever lose hate is if there are two BLMs blasting off Flares back-to-back. But generally, keeping hate isn't too much of a problem.