So what you actually say is that you can't hold hate when you are in a group of better geared DPS? Well it kind of does not seems like a "code" problem that should be fixed. This may be intentional for bump up the skill cap of the game. Shouldn't DPS watch out for his hate generation and lower it when it becomes too high?

So if you can't hold aggro by any means and your DPS blame you - just ask them to kindly watch over the hate meter and lower the DPS output when they hit the 85% or higher.

Sometimes when I was leveling PLD I was parried with lvl50 i90 i100 DPSes, even after syncing their DPS was superior and I had problems to keep the single target hate. And it's not like I was geared utterly bad, my gear was up to date all the time (especially a weapon which i bought from Market / Maelstorm or I obtained from dungeons). DPS needs to learn their role as well.

I shouldn't steal hate from tank only because I'm able to.