I had a similar problem...

I played for about a month with a male Elezen, got to r28 THM and some others. But after spending so much time I noticed something.....male Elezens are just too weird. You only got to options, look like a weird female Elezen or look silly in "serious" gear. It was a revelation to me, took me a month to figure it out...

They don't even look elfish-cool like Legolas or Link or any other cool elf. No...they look weird, just plain old weird.

So I created a male Hyur. Already on r20 as THM, slow and steady. But at least now I'm a lot more comfortable with it than with the Elezen.