The grind is definitely an issue on some parts of the game (I'm looking at you, Atma grind!). I think the other question is why do we feel compelled to participate in said grinds even if we hate them? I'd say I really want the paladin atma shield and sword just because they better match the paladin AF2 color scheme (for those who don't know what AF2 means, I am referring to the mythos job specific gear). However, the ultra low chances of acquiring the prerequisite items does translate to a lot of wasted time doing fates because there is no definitive progress to acquiring the atma. You either get the atma of the x from the zone you're in or you don't.

I also think their is a high level of toxicity at end game in terms of negative social pressure from elitists that forces people into the wrong kind of grinds. No one should feel they need to grind ex primals or do all the duty roulettes every single day just so some other person who whines about other people being new can get easy kills on DF or PF. Toxic players make all forms of end game grind that much more painful if just for painting the entire game experience in a negative light.