Life is good. I transfered from Masamune and I've found that Tonberry is much better for English speakers. Party Finder is often almost half-full of english-speaking groups, although you'll still see some "jp only". And it's quite common to see /shouts in English. Not sure about getting kicked from a group for not speaking Japanese as I only have English selected in the Duty Finder - I still manage to get into groups though, despite being a DPS.
I've also tried playing on a US server - not only did the latency make dodging nearly impossible, but I couldn't get through a play session without having to blacklist 2 or 3 goldseller spammers. So far on Tonberry I haven't had a single /tell from a goldseller (hopefully those aren't famous last words).