mine mine mine
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H4BNbHBcnDI

who needs item the most?

Play a single player game if you can't accept random people looting for glamour, seals, desynth, spiritbonding, gils or whatever reasons. Everybody play the game as he/she sees fit. So the actual looting rules are the closest to fair.

That said, if developers add for preformed or full FC groups, options to set some rules that would be fine.