I've been there. If you really want to rage check people in DF. The sheer number of level 50s wearing incorrect gear is aneurysm inducing and you can't even see how they spent their stat points.

People seem to be getting to 50 without learning much of anything with disturbing regularity. A large part of it is how the game is designed to encourage experts to prop up newbies through Atma/Roulette design.

We learn through failure. When people much better than you keep you from failing, you miss out on an opportunity to get better. The training wheels should not be coming off for the first time so late in the game. I think that's why Turn 5 and Titan EX are a wall right now, FFXIV does a really poor job of getting you ready to be good with how it's currently designed.