After recently levelling my PLD to 50, I've noticed a recurring pattern in instances.

I make a habit of letting players know when anything is my first time, that way it doesn't come as a surprise when I make a mistake. (Which I inevitabely end up doing half the time.) However, even after telling people that I'm a first timer PLD, I get no sort of advice at all when I actually make a crucial mistake which ends up affecting the party. Instead I get told "It's your fault" etc etc. And I can't help but wonder... How the f**k am I supposed to grow from that? I would have loved it if anyone actually told me what I was doing wrong, that way I could actually get better and improve myself. Sadly it seems the general consensus in these cases simply go "Blame the new guy."