The Tank disrespect is real.

I was doing a roulette in Haukke normal yesterday and a DPS decided to pull a group of mobs. I said "Let me pull". He told me I was moving too slow.

Dumb Dumb then called me a 'nerd' (lol) and proceeded to talk sh*t for the rest of the dungeon.

I've never heard an adult use the word 'nerd' to insult anyone, so I'm thinking this was a teen/pre-teen/immature adult...but that's beside the point.

If you go to fast, some ppl complain. If you go to slow, some ppl complain. If you die, the healer will say "You went down fast" or some other passive way of blaming you. If both DPS decide to single-target a different mob and pull hate, you're blamed for losing hate.

Why? Because tanks are leaders. They set the pace for the dungeon. A good tank and a good healer is often the difference between a smooth run and a terrible one. In 90% of the content you can basically get by with below average DPS and a good tank and healer. It's only when you get to the few DPS checks (Ramuh's Adds, Ifrit's Nail, Titan's Heart, T4, T6 Super Slug, etc) do you absolutely NEED good DPS numbers. So if something, anything goes wrong, people look at the people who are most vital to success. And it isn't DPS. I say that as a BLM (ilvl 102) main.

TL;DR - Tanks and healers are highly-visible while DPS are not. You may not notice if one of the DPS isn't up to snuff, and it might not even factor into your success, but if you have a bad tank or healer, YOU'LL NOTICE. It stands to reason we'll get the bulk of the blame when things go south.