I know exactly how threat works. As a tank, your job is to hold hate. If you lose hate for whatever reason, whether a DPS was going all out AoE the second you Tomahawk\Shield Lob, or your just a bad tank, it's still your job to hold hate. Just because a DPS isn't performing correctly doesn't mean I'm going to let them die. I'm still going to do my job and get hate back. By sitting there and watching them your are failing to perform your job.

When I tank, I really don't care if DPS pull extra mobs. If it wipes us then fine..i'll ask them to stop but otherwise it just speeds up the dungeon which is always a good thing. Why does it bother you so much? Is it because they took your leadership role away and hurt your feelings? Someone sounds butt hurt to me.