Problem 1 solved.
For some reason I had to go into documents > my games> ffxiv realm reborn > then select "FFXIV BOOT" and change settings via notepad

Version 2
Language 1
Region 2
EulaAgreement 1
StartupCompleted 0
B4EulaAgreement 1
BootVersionCheckMode 0
ConfigReset 0
Seems sort of a crazy thing to do just to play the game. But now I am getting more errors when trying to download the patch

A Problem Occurred While Updating
Please restart FFXIV
[11006][20641][20643]

What do all these error codes mean.