Let's break this down, step by step, because obviously paragraphed sentences are too much for you to handle.
I don't know how many times we have to say the same thing over and over, you being AFK during a dungeon can be considered harassment. Period. IDGAF if your fairy can take care of everyone. All the more reason you can DPS to help everyone accomplish their goal quicker, instead of purposely AFKing during a dungeon. I WILL NOT repeat that again, regardless of how long you care to drag out this argument.
Maybe you didn't mention the ToS, but it has been mentioned multiple times in this thread. "Healer isn't supposed to DPS blah blah blah." Well, this blends in to your 'expected time' statement (which will be dissected later). You flat-out establish the fact that your character needs to do absolutely nothing for your fairy to heal a low level dungeon. I "expect" you to contribute in other ways that aren't outside the realms of your individual skill. Don't try to preach horseshit and make it out to be filet mignon. And who is crying? Me? I have 100 healer friends in LS/FC that would love to replace you for 100 quick myth tomes right at the end of a dungeon. I don't cry, I act. And I already said what I do in situations such as these. I won't repeat that again either.
You obviously think the analogy is dumb, because you don't understand what it means. That's ok. I won't waste my time on an English lesson. But the analogy itself is sound. All your debate about "bonus time" and "expected time" doesn't mean a damn thing to me. You are basically saying it is ok for you to do something as a healer and it is not ok for a different Job to do the same. Period.
First of all, who are you to expect anything out of anyone when you yourself are blatantly fessing up to giving the absolute bare minimum? Here's your double standard. You say "DPS as a healer" is bonus time. What if I think your lucky you even grouped into a random dungeon with me? You don't deserve to expect anything out of anyone when you could care less about making a run more efficient.
Secondly, "expected time" is egregiously subjective. I have seen MNK's perform rotations in dungeons and never once re-position. That is cutting highly into your expected time. However, at least I can recognize whether or not the player is even trying, or AFK. Can offer them tips to make their rotation better, hence turning that player into a better player over time. My 'expected time' was low in the dungeon due to the loss of DPS. You can't expect anything when teaming up with random players, except for the fact that the person is ACTUALLY THERE.
Which you are not.