while i kinda agree with the other posters, MMO's just might not be for you. i wont be so harsh as to say you should quit the game but maybe explore some of the other things to do in the game. End game will always revolve around dodging mechanics and split second reaction times because thats what we have grown accustomed to and to step it down now would only serve to turn more people away

i definitely sympathize with the OP and others like him tho, those people coming to FFXIV with an expectation that the combat would be slower or more on pace with a turn based game(something that final fantasy was kind of known for) are definitely going to in for a surprise when they get here