First thing's first. Assume any PF group that's muttering about 1 shot only, is run by an asshole. Probability is that they're either someone looking to be carried or will blame anyone and everyone but themselves if the fight goes FUBAR, even if you know, for a fact, that it's their fault. In other words, a healthy dose of cynicism may save you some headaches.

Two: If you're not wearing the better soldier gear, that's an option for progression over ilvl 90.

Three: Find a group of competent individuals interested in raiding, regardless of their gear level. Help em get geared. Go raid.