I don't understand...

[Keres]

I had tanks do that as I was healing on my WHM, not so hard to fluid aura, sleep, save swiftcast for stoneskin, clutch heal/cc, or last hit damage and get it done with, use regen and small heals. If worse comes to worse I'd just kite tank the other adds while dpsing and healing.

Instead of sitting there doing nothing but whine hoping for the issue to magically resolve itself. God forbid the existence of ingenuity and situational awareness.

The expectations people have now compared to when MMO's first started is pretty hilarious. Duty Finder is not Major League Gaming and portions of the community take it to the comic book guy extremes by going to town on someone because they can't do what you believe should be standard which is elitist no matter how you want to spin it.

Tanking poorly and letting your team members die (or having them be forced to pick up your slack) is frustrating when you're the tank. I get mad at myself whenever I mess up tanking and someone else dies because of it, or worse, the whole group wipes. For all you know, that tank wishes they could be doing better when they see monsters going off and attacking the healer; it's entirely possible that they simply don't know why and are too shy to ask for help due to fear of someone yelling at them. I've seen it happen before, heck, I've even been there a few times in various games.

Politeness and humbleness is something that should go both ways, and it's entirely possible to give friendly advice without coming across as a jerk. The fact that you don't seem to believe it's possible is a little confusing, honestly.

Not just a few days ago, I politely told a co-tank in Garuda (as close to exact wording as I can recall) "hey, in case you didn't know about it, you can step through her to avoid the Slipstreams. It can save a lot of damage. " and he was grateful for the information. In fact, if someone gets offended and cries elitism at that particular line of text, I'm going to state that they're being unreasonable. I can understand not accepting abusive or rude behavior, but it is entirely possible to give friendly/helpful advice, framed in a nonthreatening way. This is not a black-and-white issue.

It seems like you've just set up this straw-man version of an "elitist player" for yourself, and whenever anyone in this thread responds to you, you respond to your strawman rather than the (seemingly reasonable) people who are actually trying to share their point of view. If you're interested in fostering a constructive discussion, this isn't the best way to go about it.