I don't understand...

[Tiggy]

Which brings us to the original intent of the system, random encounters with endless possibilities with a central theme of helping players running through the story and/or completing quests/hunts.

This is not the place to judge players because it is more about situational help and less about friendship related help. You can ask people whom you know to act how you think they should act but don't expect the same from strangers.

We're no one to be judging people we don't know. No one owes you anything in a random chance encounter. In Duty Finder let it work how Square wants it to work.

That doesn't mean we can't provide advice. Advice which is often taken with a grain of salt and the phrase "let me play how I play." No one is forcing anyone to do anything, but simply giving advice is like pulling teeth. It's at that point that their refusal to even take advice becomes such a hindrance to the groups success that what Nero said becomes VERY true. "But don't expect the same from strangers" falls apart pretty quickly when you get stuck with a tank refusing to use Shield Oath or Defiance because "let me play how I play." It is a real hindrance to the group. A real waste of time for 3 other players. All because "let me play how I play."

People need to be open to criticism when they are obviously learning, and people giving the advice need to learn to simmer down. If the person won't take your advice just leave.